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*Dealing with Whining* ______________________________________ If you enjoy this free email service, I encourage you to spread the word to family and friends that we may bring inspiration into the lives of many! If you are not on the list and this has been passed along to you, join the thousands of HeartTouchers.com readers around the world by sending a blank e-mail to: HeartTouchers-subscribe@myinjesus.com Visit our inspirational web site and read all the past stories in our archives at: http://www.HeartTouchers.com/Archives Be sure to check out our brand new inspirational list just for teenagers! Heart4Teens.com To subscribe, send a blank e-mail to: Heart4Teens-subscribe@myinjesus.com or visit: http://www.Heart4Teens.com ____________________________________________ Good afternoon HeartTouchers.com readers! Before we get to today's story by Chick Moorman I wanted to help out my sister and brother-in-law first. Jeff and Christina Miller, and their five kids have an unusual pet: Gizmo the African Serval, who the City of Saginaw, Texas is wrongfully trying to take away from them. You may have seen him on national news recently. Those of you who are animal lovers or just love an unusual story, visit Gizmo's website at: http://www.johoffry.n3.net From my family to yours, Michael ____________________________________________ Dealing with Whining: The Do's and Don'ts by Chick Moorman Jason Meredith's two-year-old son whines when he wants more juice. Brenda Kreuger's eight-year-old daughter whines about having to take piano lessons. Connie Gustufson's daughter whines about not getting enough playing time on the softball team. Each parent finds the whining annoying, but is unsure what to do about it. In each case, both parent and child could be helped by the following guidelines: Do expect your child to whine. It is age-appropriate at two, three, eight, thirteen, nineteen, and every age in between. Children will whine. Count on it. Don't say, "Stop whining." That doesn't work. Children do not like being ordered around under normal circumstances. When they are whining, they like it even less. One thing worse than a whiner is a whiner that engages you in a power struggle. Do say, "Madison, that's whining. Whining doesn't work with me. What works with me is to ask in a normal voice using a normal tone at a normal volume. If you do that, sometimes you get what you want. Sometimes you don't, but it's your only hope." Don't be surprised if you're tested. Your child will check you out to see if you meant what you just said. Show your child that you did mean it. Don't cave. You may be tested more than once. Once your child realizes that whining doesn't work, he or she will drop the behavior. A child who fights does so because that behavior works for him or her. A child who runs away from fights does so because that works for him or her. A child who gives excuses does so because that behavior works for him or her. Show your child that whining doesn't work with you. Do announce that your bedroom, the living room, the kitchen, and the car are whine-free zones. Put up whine-free signs if necessary. Do allow your child to whine. Provide a whining area. The child's bedroom will work well for this purpose. With a legitimate whining area, your child can continue to whine if he or she chooses, and you don't have to hear it. Don't whine to your spouse about your whining child. You are always modeling. Your child learned whining behavior somewhere. Could it have been from you? Do use a whine fine for older children. Assess each whiner $1.00 per whine. Keep it in a whine jar or whine bottle. Treat yourself to dinner out or a massage when the whine toll allows. Do allow children to whine in a whining journal. Inform them that you will listen to all whining if it is written down. Do praise your child when he or she asks in a normal voice using a normal tone at a normal volume. Don't take children to stores, malls, or relatives' homes after their normal bedtimes. If you do, you're asking for whining. Whining, both theirs and yours, increases with tiredness. Do use preventative communication before you enter whine zones. Have a talk in the car before you enter the grocery store. Explain the purpose of the trip. Set the ground rules. Make your expectations clear before you enter the whine zone, and you will experience less whining when you get there. Do inform your child that you are having trouble hearing when he or she whines. Say that your child is hard to understand when he or she chooses that tone. Tell your child that whining hurts your ears and they close down for whine protection. Do make a copy of this article and carry it around with you. Doing so will help you stay conscious that whining is a behavior you have made a commitment to eliminate. Don't get discouraged. Whining is learned behavior. Learned behavior can be unlearned, and if you use these strategies consistently, your child will learn new behaviors to replace it. Chick Moorman ipp57@aol.com Write Chick and let him know your thoughts on his article! Chick Moorman is the author of "Parent Talk: How To Talk To Your Child In Language That Builds Self-Esteem and Encourages Responsibility," and "Spirit Whisperers: Teachers Who Nourish A Child's Spirit." (Personal Power Press, toll free, 877-360-1477.) He publishes FREE E-newsletters for parents and educators. Contact him (ipp57@aol.com) to get your free subscription to one or both newsletters. _________________________________________ Thought For The Day: "Carve your name on hearts and not on marble." Verse for the Day: "The only letter I need is you yourselves! They can see that you are a letter from Christ, written by us...not one carved on stone but in human hearts."--2 Corinthians 3:2,3 Kid's Thought for the Day: "If you wait until you are sure you will never take off the training wheels." Parent's Thought For The Day "Authority without wisdom is like a heavy axe without an edge, fitter to bruise than polish." --Anne Bradstreet Coach's Thought For The Day "Let it never be forgotten that glamour is not greatness; applause is not fame; prominence is not eminence. The person of the hour is not apt to be the person of the ages. It is what the unimportant do that really counts and determines the course of history. The world would soon die but for the fidelity, loyalty, and consecration of those whose names are unhonored and unsung."--John R. Sizoo Writer's Thought For The Day: "The best fame is a writer's fame. It's enough to get a table at a good restaurant, but not enough to get you interrupted when you eat." --Fran Lebowitz Deep Thought For The Day: "I believe that dust protects furniture." __________________________________________ REQUESTS: Please pray for my husband Marc as he will be having a 4th surgrey on March 29th. Please pray that there aren't any complications, that he doesn't have much pain and discomfort, also please pray that he will get to come home the same day. Please also me to your prayer chain as I had an mri on Monday as they found something on my breasts and uterus. Please pray that it is not serious, that I won't have to under go surgrey, and that the pain will go away. Thanks much and God bless you all Love, Erica e.l.casanova@cox.net _________________________________________ Have you been to the HeartTouchers.com website lately? If you like what you see and would like to have your own professional looking website, visit the link below. Bizstudio has been a wonderful service for HeartTouchers.com and with 355,000 visitors in the past three years, the website has been a tremendous tool in helping us to "Touch Lives, One Email at a Time." Although I had no prior experience building a website, I was able to create and build the HeartTouchers.com site easily utilizing Bizstudio's online editor. It includes an Online Site Editor, Unlimited Updates, Unlimited Pages, Professional Themes, Pre-Programmed Features, E-mail Accounts, and free Search Engine Submission. If I could do it with no prior experience you can too! Check it out at this link: http://www.bizstudio.com/main/home.htm?bpn=A16435 _________________________________________ MICHAEL T. POWERS www.HeartTouchers.com "I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me." Galatians 2:20 __________________________________________ Video Imagery --Michael's Video Production Business Dear Michael, I just wanted to take a minute to thank you for the beautiful video you made for me! It was so special to see both of my parents in tears as they watched their children grow up in pictures before their eyes! I loved the way you made Estania's part set aside from the rest--that was the part that really got them! The music was beautiful. My mom kept blubbering, "What song is that?" I don't know how you did such a beautiful job with the video in such a short time. I really appreciate your doing it so quickly. You have a wonderful gift, and I thank God that you are using it to create such sentimental memories. I hope that I can find my niche like that in an area that I love. Your video gave us one of our most lasting Christmas memories! I hope yours was filled with moments to be treasured forever! Love, Trisha Silverhill, AL Let me make you a video from your photos! 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